There were years I tried to make my pain sacred just to survive it, to pretend the breaking had a purpose. But some things didn’t teach. They just tore.
Still, something tender grew in me after. Not because of the wound, but in spite of it.
Thank you for reminding me I don’t have to glorify the ache to honor what I became. 🌒🕊️
I guess it was not all wrong to give your pain a purpose back then. It probably helped you survive until you were in calmer waters. But in the end of course you want to live pain free.
Well said, I whole heartedly agree with your article Tim. Especially agree those who make it through adversity and suffering were already strong (or had a lot of support) There's that old saying "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I don't think it makes you stronger, maybe just more aware and therefore better at avoiding similar kinds of suffering in the future.
To some extent it makes sense like when I did my cold shower exercises. It felt terrible but had positives outcomes. Of course that is not same as real suffering. The shower I can end every second and it never caused harm or trauma.
For muscle training I also understand it, though it is widely known that you do actually harm with overtraining. So the benefit is not actually in the suffering but in using your muscles to the max without doing too much damage. So in a way the slogan "no pain no gain" also is a bit outdated these days...
Yes many things of the past are quite sad. And animal rights before rights for children.
But so many things got better.... and I hope that we keep on learning that pain and suffering has no glory... we have smart minds to find better solutions.
Reading this felt like exhale.
There were years I tried to make my pain sacred just to survive it, to pretend the breaking had a purpose. But some things didn’t teach. They just tore.
Still, something tender grew in me after. Not because of the wound, but in spite of it.
Thank you for reminding me I don’t have to glorify the ache to honor what I became. 🌒🕊️
I guess it was not all wrong to give your pain a purpose back then. It probably helped you survive until you were in calmer waters. But in the end of course you want to live pain free.
Well said, I whole heartedly agree with your article Tim. Especially agree those who make it through adversity and suffering were already strong (or had a lot of support) There's that old saying "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I don't think it makes you stronger, maybe just more aware and therefore better at avoiding similar kinds of suffering in the future.
Yes I know that saying and also used to say it.
To some extent it makes sense like when I did my cold shower exercises. It felt terrible but had positives outcomes. Of course that is not same as real suffering. The shower I can end every second and it never caused harm or trauma.
For muscle training I also understand it, though it is widely known that you do actually harm with overtraining. So the benefit is not actually in the suffering but in using your muscles to the max without doing too much damage. So in a way the slogan "no pain no gain" also is a bit outdated these days...
I know how dogs used to be trained, especially hunting dogs
I was "trained" like a hunting dog with the old methods
Right this moment crying is not enough. I want to scream.
Yes many things of the past are quite sad. And animal rights before rights for children.
But so many things got better.... and I hope that we keep on learning that pain and suffering has no glory... we have smart minds to find better solutions.
Yes...there are better solutions, happy ones... we only have to decide to choose them