Wow!! In my case, you put a finger right on the center of the problem.
My place is not safe, and for now, all I can do is to fight off its triggers and anxiety while, at the same time, I prepare myself to leave it. I know that I haven't started healing yet, I'm still on survival because of my unsafe environment.
But if I left now, it would be just a meaningless escape. That's why I need to prepare.
I also need a financial cushion to begin with. So I work, build new skills, and save money.
I need walks in nature. There is no nature near me, so I need to change area.
I need distance from the people who wounded me, but only physical distance is not enough. I need distance from certain mentalities and value systems, so I need to change country; to do this, I need to learn a new language, and I'm learning it.
Many steps+ action+ percistence+ patience+ time--> change unsafe and toxic physical and mental surroundings -->healing
Yes, just running away often is not possible and it alone doesn't solve the problem. But as you said you can do many steps... don't need to be big ones... but they will add up. And one thing you can always do is to establish boundaries. Yes, some people will try to violet them but even in those cases they kinda give you a line of defense. And that line will get stronger over time.
Yes, it's a bit crazy times currently. Sometimes you can't choose the timing and only can make small steps to getting better. Improve a bit here and a bit there, and then even hard times can be a little less hard...
Wow!! In my case, you put a finger right on the center of the problem.
My place is not safe, and for now, all I can do is to fight off its triggers and anxiety while, at the same time, I prepare myself to leave it. I know that I haven't started healing yet, I'm still on survival because of my unsafe environment.
But if I left now, it would be just a meaningless escape. That's why I need to prepare.
I also need a financial cushion to begin with. So I work, build new skills, and save money.
I need walks in nature. There is no nature near me, so I need to change area.
I need distance from the people who wounded me, but only physical distance is not enough. I need distance from certain mentalities and value systems, so I need to change country; to do this, I need to learn a new language, and I'm learning it.
Many steps+ action+ percistence+ patience+ time--> change unsafe and toxic physical and mental surroundings -->healing
Thank you for this great article :-)
Yes, just running away often is not possible and it alone doesn't solve the problem. But as you said you can do many steps... don't need to be big ones... but they will add up. And one thing you can always do is to establish boundaries. Yes, some people will try to violet them but even in those cases they kinda give you a line of defense. And that line will get stronger over time.
Stay 💪 and believe in your own goodness ✨️
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Healing? In this economy? :)
Yes, it's a bit crazy times currently. Sometimes you can't choose the timing and only can make small steps to getting better. Improve a bit here and a bit there, and then even hard times can be a little less hard...