What you wrote is a life lesson for us...a precious one. That we must let life happen and not force it to follow a certain direction. We build ourselves the best way we can so that we can adjust and flow. We can't - and shouldn't- try to have control over everything; we are not functioning in survival mode anymore.
Personally, my urge to rationalise everything is still strong. But at least now I recognise it, it's my defence "against" feelings that scare or hurt me. I try to let all my feelings exist, to show me what they have to say. I'm not my thoughts only, I'm not my feelings only.
I learned in physics class at school that the whole is not the mere sum of the parts. I loved this concept, and I believe it to be generally true: every human being is more than thoughts and feelings; is a balanced, sacred, living whole
The more you find trust in life the less you have the need to control it.
Of course can be difficult when some people already learn in their childhoods that trust can bring a lot of pain…
But as we get older and older… we can connect the dots, see the bigger picture and come to the conclusion that somehow we mastered the sh*t that was thrown at us… that’s a good opportunity to invite trust back into our lives.
What you wrote is a life lesson for us...a precious one. That we must let life happen and not force it to follow a certain direction. We build ourselves the best way we can so that we can adjust and flow. We can't - and shouldn't- try to have control over everything; we are not functioning in survival mode anymore.
Personally, my urge to rationalise everything is still strong. But at least now I recognise it, it's my defence "against" feelings that scare or hurt me. I try to let all my feelings exist, to show me what they have to say. I'm not my thoughts only, I'm not my feelings only.
I learned in physics class at school that the whole is not the mere sum of the parts. I loved this concept, and I believe it to be generally true: every human being is more than thoughts and feelings; is a balanced, sacred, living whole
The more you find trust in life the less you have the need to control it.
Of course can be difficult when some people already learn in their childhoods that trust can bring a lot of pain…
But as we get older and older… we can connect the dots, see the bigger picture and come to the conclusion that somehow we mastered the sh*t that was thrown at us… that’s a good opportunity to invite trust back into our lives.
Trust, yes. We feel its warmth, and stop shivering from fear. And then we can be brave enough to open up to love.