Setting Boundaries - Part VII
What Setting Boundaries Teaches Us
One of the hardest struggles we face when starting to set boundaries is the immense guilt we feel.
A simple no can feel like we slap the whole world. It’s something we must never do. Because we fear that society, the universe, karma, or whatever spirits eventually will punish us for that sin.
It’s not that we are cowards. So we try saying no, calmly as we learned, but still making sure it sounds like we really mean it. But then comes the pushback.
Sometimes they’re simple questions. People may just want to know why we said no or challenge our boundaries just a little.
In itself, that is nothing bad.
We could just stay calm and stand our ground. Instead, we get triggered. Our minds spiral down into the black hole of guilt. No escape possible. Things look dire, and we can feel it in every cell of our body.