Childhood trauma healing often begins in a dysfunctional family system where self-trust was quietly broken. When you start facing your childhood, anxiety rises, identity dissolves, and the void appears. Instead of clarity, you meet confusion. Instead of certainty, you question who you are. This is not failure. It is the collapse of a role you were forced to play.
"Keep this in mind. If you had the strength to function in a role that was never yours, you also have the strength to find your way back to your true self."
Guess many more can relate or need to hear this. We are often far more powerful than we think we are… ‘cause often we were made to believe we were small and weak.
Tim, your thoughts and words always reaffirm my own life. You have a way of expressing your thoughts in such a way I say to myself "Yes this is true". I was sharing with a friend my frustration with novels about people overcoming childhood trauma. The attitude that it made you a better person to overcome these challenges. I say bullshit on that. It's horrible. It's hard there's nothing glamorous or heartwarming about it. What I have come to realize is I was a great person when I arrived as we all are. Now the challenge is to remember and acknowledge that amazing precious child. Learning to trust the feelings, the joys, the excitement of who I really am is hard work sometimes. The reward is peace and joy.
It's not easy, to trust. We had learned differently. It's a slow process but is possible to unlearn what harmed us, the role we were given..
Yes not easy... but it's worthwhile... that's why we basically started the healing journey initially...
✨ yes, it's worth is maybe the highest among all. And it allows us to walk on our healing path until the end of (our) time ✨
Yes your own path always the best for you.
"Keep this in mind. If you had the strength to function in a role that was never yours, you also have the strength to find your way back to your true self."
Well said.
I relate to so much of this. Thank you, Tim.
Thank you for your feedback.
Guess many more can relate or need to hear this. We are often far more powerful than we think we are… ‘cause often we were made to believe we were small and weak.
Tim, your thoughts and words always reaffirm my own life. You have a way of expressing your thoughts in such a way I say to myself "Yes this is true". I was sharing with a friend my frustration with novels about people overcoming childhood trauma. The attitude that it made you a better person to overcome these challenges. I say bullshit on that. It's horrible. It's hard there's nothing glamorous or heartwarming about it. What I have come to realize is I was a great person when I arrived as we all are. Now the challenge is to remember and acknowledge that amazing precious child. Learning to trust the feelings, the joys, the excitement of who I really am is hard work sometimes. The reward is peace and joy.
Thank you!
Thank you for your kind feedback.
This better person thingy is kinda confusing… because that somehow implies you were not always that “good”…
In a similar way it’s like saying that animals from a shelter make so much better pets… because they appreciate the love you give them….
But… there are plenty of pets that never had to suffer and also are the best companions you ever had… without carrying pain or being traumatized…