Yes. I identify Tim. I am hyper vigilant about them; also the smoke = wildfire idea resonates after toxic family (x2 members) and two coverts in long term romantic relationships. I think this advice about just listening - trusting the voice that says sidestep and avoid is very helpful; no need to ask why or engage - just avoid. The intuition is finely tuned after a lifetime. But also allow and recognise the green flags as much as keeping alert for the the red? Restoring balance?
I was thinking balance in regards to looking for the green flags in others too as you described - a product of having listened to the quiet balancing voices with in you, telling you you are a good guy?
Aaaah... maybe you don't have to look for them. People of "your tribe" will feel lighter as they dont drain your energy. Maybe you don't recognise in the moment but afterward you will know how you feel.
Yes. I identify Tim. I am hyper vigilant about them; also the smoke = wildfire idea resonates after toxic family (x2 members) and two coverts in long term romantic relationships. I think this advice about just listening - trusting the voice that says sidestep and avoid is very helpful; no need to ask why or engage - just avoid. The intuition is finely tuned after a lifetime. But also allow and recognise the green flags as much as keeping alert for the the red? Restoring balance?
Not sure if you need balance... but for sure you want people around you that feel uplifting and who value you for who you are.
I was thinking balance in regards to looking for the green flags in others too as you described - a product of having listened to the quiet balancing voices with in you, telling you you are a good guy?
Aaaah... maybe you don't have to look for them. People of "your tribe" will feel lighter as they dont drain your energy. Maybe you don't recognise in the moment but afterward you will know how you feel.
Thanks. I will keep this in mind. 👍🏻
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Thanks a lot for your feedback. Gives me quite some motivation to write more of this. 🧸
Please do!
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